How Depression has Made Me a Happier Person

When people ask me how I am, I usual say, “I’m alright,” or simply, “ok,” and some people respond with concern or condescension: “/just/ alright?” As if being manically exultant is not living a full life. I hate that response: “just ok?” To me, just ok is heaven. For me, just ok is hard earned […]

Episode 14: Being Queer in Christian School, Pt. 1

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In this episode of Sacred Tension, I sit down with lifelong friend and fabulous drag queen Ida Carolina AKA Nathan Adams about growing up queer in Christian school. We share what it was like being queer in evangelical culture, what lessons we internalized about ourselves, and how we survived the experience. If you enjoy this […]

Episode 13: Gay Celibacy

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In this episode of Sacred Tension, I discuss the harms of mandatory gay celibacy with blogger Patrick Gothman. Patrick shares what it was like growing up gay in the Catholic church, how he came to believe God requires him to be celibate for the rest of his life, and how and why he eventually walked […]

Being Gay and Grieving for the Holidays

Grieving for the Holidays
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I’m writing this the day before Thanksgiving. I’m weighed down with exhaustion – I manage a grocery store, and the holidays always hit us like a tidal wave. But I’m also weighed down with sorrow, with grief. As the holidays approach, I’ve felt an inexplicable dread come over me, and a deep grief. The sort […]

Right Wing Conspiracies

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Do gay people cause straight men to commit adultery? Is cannibalism rampent in Hollywood? Do drag queens have their way with your children? In this episode, Stephen and guest cohost Danielle explore the terrifying world of right wing conspiracies, and why they should alarm us. All articles and audio clips featured used with the permission […]

The Nashville Statement, Pt 4

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In this final installment of the Nashville Statement series, Matt and I deliriously wrap up our discussion. We go on some pretty serious tangents, including: why I hate the phrase “speaking the truth in love,” the crazy things customers say to me at work, and how we’ve learned to live with doubt.

The Nashville Statement, Pt3

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Matt Langston (of Eleventyseven fame) and I continue our read-through of the Nashville Statement. We discuss gender, transgenderism, gay celibacy, and the dangers of gender complementarianism. I also got a bit drunk

The Nashville Statement, Pt. 1

The Nashville Statement, Pt. 1
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In this episode of Sacred Tension, Eleventyseven frontman Matt Langston reads the anti-gay Nasheville Statement to me to get a blow by blow response from a real-life gay person. In the process we discuss a wide range of topics including sex, the Bible, and growing up gay in the south. Link to the Nasheville Statement.