In this episode of Sacred Tension, I sit down with lifelong friend and fabulous drag queen Ida Carolina AKA Nathan Adams about growing up queer in Christian school. We share what it was like being queer in evangelical culture, what lessons we internalized about ourselves, and how we survived the experience. If you enjoy this […]
At the moment when I was the most certain of my traditional beliefs on sexuality I fell, quite by accident, very deeply in love with another man, whom I will call Andrew.
As I’ve told my story of failure and wounding within a commitment to lifelong celibacy – and how I have eventually walked away from it – the most common response from conservative Christians has been withering. The vast majority of them who have responded on social media and the blogosphere have been singing variations of, […]
It’s been a long, painful and perilous journey from a life of suffocating fear and self-loathing toward a life of fearlessness and love. I spent most of my teenage and adult years trapped in the impenetrable coffin of my self-loathing, absolutely convinced that I was unlovable to God. As a young boy growing up in […]
I’m happy as a gay man. In fact, with the exception of when I sit down to write about it, I rarely think about being gay. It’s simply a fact, fading into the details of life. I think of myself as simply Stephen, with a myriad of interests, and I think of my partner as […]
In 2013, I was sick with heartbreak. My boyfriend, on a sunny January day in Baltimore, broke up with me. He was a conservative Christian, and so was I. We both believed that homosexuality was not God’s best for humanity, and that it would be a sin to act on it. And yet, here we […]
Wendy VanderWal-Gritter – a Christian thinker, ministry leader, and straight ally – has long struggled with the dynamic tensions of being a person of faith who also embraces the gay community.
Nearly every gay person raised in the Christian world has heard it at least once in their lives: “You know deep within your heart that what you are doing is wrong. You know in your heart that homosexuality is not God’s best for you, and you are just unwilling to admit it, running away from […]
I’m away from the blog this month, focusing on school, work, and vacation, and I will be back next week writing regularly. While I’m away, I’ve decided to repost articles from my previous blog. Enjoy. As I’ve struggled through questions of faith and homosexuality and arrived at a more affirming position, I have found myself […]
I am finally finishing up my music undergraduate degree, and then embarking on a much needed vacation in Vancouver. Because of this, I have decided to take a break from writing. Instead, I will be re-post some of my older articles. I will be back writing original weekly articles in mid to late August. Till […]