Being Gay and Grieving for the Holidays

Grieving for the Holidays
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I’m writing this the day before Thanksgiving. I’m weighed down with exhaustion – I manage a grocery store, and the holidays always hit us like a tidal wave. But I’m also weighed down with sorrow, with grief. As the holidays approach, I’ve felt an inexplicable dread come over me, and a deep grief. The sort […]

The Nashville Statement, Pt 4

Couple hugging in front of a sunset.

In this final installment of the Nashville Statement series, Matt and I deliriously wrap up our discussion. We go on some pretty serious tangents, including: why I hate the phrase “speaking the truth in love,” the crazy things customers say to me at work, and how we’ve learned to live with doubt.

The Nashville Statement, Pt3

couple and a night sky.
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Matt Langston (of Eleventyseven fame) and I continue our read-through of the Nashville Statement. We discuss gender, transgenderism, gay celibacy, and the dangers of gender complementarianism. I also got a bit drunk

I Will Make Him a Helper: Homosexuality and Erotic Union

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As I’ve told my story of failure and wounding within a commitment to lifelong celibacy – and how I have eventually walked away from it – the most common response from conservative Christians has been withering. The vast majority of them who have responded on social media and the blogosphere have been singing variations of, […]

The Good Father: Of God, Doubt, and Gay Relationships

Church against a beautiful night sky

It’s been a long, painful and perilous journey from a life of suffocating fear and self-loathing toward a life of fearlessness and love. I spent most of my teenage and adult years trapped in the impenetrable coffin of my self-loathing, absolutely convinced that I was unlovable to God.  As a young boy growing up in […]

On Not Being Held Captive By the Beliefs of Others

Once upon a time, there was a fast talking, chain-smoking bisexual Texan pastor named Robert who sat me down and gave me a stern talking to. “Listen Stephen,” he said. “The world is full of assholes. And if you lose your sanity over them – if you lose your happiness because some asshole out there […]

On Not Taking the Bait

I was traumatized by my time in church. The years of sitting in pews, Bible studies, and coffee shops with Christian leaders, listening to variation upon variation of how wrong homosexuality is, slowly eroded me. Words might not seem that powerful, but if they are a steady trickle, coursing over your young mind which is […]